News for May 18th 2009
SEXUALITY, ILLNESS, AND HEALTH: NOT FEELING TOO GOOD BUT HAVING NO DETECTABLE HEALTH PROBLEMS
Medical measurement techniques are all vague estimates of body processes that can never be directly assessed. We can only compare somebody response, count of cells, or appearance of body products with some arbitrary numerical standard. When your “count” falls within pre-established limits, then cosmopolitan medicine says there are “no remarkable findings.” (Actually, the human system is far beyond remarkable, a true, infinitely complex miracle.) Even when medicine says you are fine, you may not “feel good.” Too many times, physicians either ignore the sexual dimensions of our health problems or are too uncomfortable to deal with them. Physician Harold Lief reports that the instance of patient report of sexual difficulties is predicted by the willingness on the part of the physician to talk about this important area of life. Another doctor, Richard Green, writes that to ignore sexual health in attempting to treat any health problem is incomplete, even unethical health care. ‘ ‘Not feeling too good” affects and can be affected by our sexuality.
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Edited: May 18th, 2009
THE JOY OF PERFECT HEALTH: HELPING OTHERS
The motto of this book is a wonderful phrase from one of the public lectures of Master Ching Hai: “We doubt everything and everybody except our own ignorance “.
Have it in mind, when trying to give advice to other people. They may not want it. Always ask if they need help.
Help only people who ask you for it or explicitly agree that you help them.
Even then, watch carefully // they listen to what you say. If they do not listen, it means that they are not yet ready to listen. Or perhaps you are not yet ready to give them advice.
Instead of trying to explain everything in a few sentences, give them this book, and suggest that you could perhaps answer some of their questions after they have read it. You will save a lot of time as well as avoid exhausting discussions and arguments.
If, after reading this book, people still miss the point, there is nothing you can do to help them. They should help themselves first. Their “bowl” is full. Any new information is just causing an overflow.
Note, that it may take years or even decades for some people to understand advice. Some people have to experience themselves consequences of all their mistakes before they understand. It is their best lesson.
Please notice, that in view of what we learned reading this book, “curing” other people does not really help them.
If they do not understand that all their diseases are caused by their own actions and ignorance, they will develop other diseases later on anyway.
It is clear, that it is much better to explain to them how they can heal themselves and never get sick again. The only difficulty in this approach is that they may not want to understand our advice.
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Edited: May 18th, 2009